As impulsivity is a known component of ADHD, it’s only wise and responsible to avoid joining your partner in making rash moves that can have long-term effects during the height of passion.
“They can go from being a person who wants to go on dates four or five nights a week to someone who just attends to whatever is in front of them,” Orlov explains. She adds that infatuated hyperfocus on the other partner can wane, just like a typical honeymoon phase.
3. Be aware of relationship dynamics that are harmful in the long run
“The most important negative pattern is the parent-child dynamic, where the more organized partner becomes the manager of the relationship and the manager of the ADHD partner,” Orlov explains.
“They’ll over-compensate for the ADHD partner’s symptomatic behaviors, and over time they’ll become resentful and angry because they’re over-functioning in the relationship,” Orlov adds.
Additionally, if one person does all of the work, the other may feel as though they’re being controlled and rebel.
4. Learn your deal breakers
You can’t change a person unless they’re willing to change, and being in a relationship with anyone can help you learn what you’re willing to live with and what your personal “red flags” are. (more…)